Self care is the perfect way for me to assign time to take stock and replenish my reserves . Practicing a self care ritual is important for preserving my own mind, body, heart + soul; holding a space for the physical body to find rest and stillness. Establishing and maintaining a regular practice allows my lifebody a break from its constant work- day and night, this creates support for wholeness and my overall wellbeing. Inner self care allows me to step away from the noise and listen to my heart a bit more clearly to reassess and regroup. For me creating simple daily rituals can easily help soothe and give me a sense of relief during the busyness of the day. I have several little daily rituals that I look forward to and in return they make me a better parent.
As a mother, I take notice of our lives too- what has our schedule been like, have we had more hard days than normal? Kids too also carry stress in their own childlike ways. A slow day or moment of pampering can be all the undivided attention they need help them come back to themselves and regain harmony. Our restless world encourages an over-scheduled, overextended, overstimulated way of life that can put self care in near extinction. Learning the act of slowing down and acknowledge what it is our bodies, minds and spirits are actually asking of us is a life skill I am happy to encourage anyone to indulge in. I am a supporter of teaching people how to actively listen to their spirits, to find points in the day/life/season were they feel grounded as well as taking advantage of the moments during transitions throughout the day as time to pause, breathe and practice an act of nourishment.
While raising humans can be a thankless and relentless job it is my desire that I also teach my children that my role is important and that my wellbeing is essential in creating a harmonious home life. And in no way do I want them to feel like parenting is martyrdom by putting myself last. While demonstrating acts of self care myself, I am also showing them to care for themselves in a loving, nurturing and intentional way. This, in return, speaks to the kind of care and love I wish for them in the present and in their future. It is also a beautiful example of self worth. Always mirror self love.
One of our favorite rituals that we have establish is Facial Fridays, its usually just me and my eldest during the evening, after dinner (or during naptime), locked in my bedroom or bathroom chatting about life and working through our routine of washing, exfoliating, purifying and hydrating. Its something I do anyway and once I decided to invite her into my practice I could see it meant a lot to her. She’s even started researching natural facial regimens and recipes. It can be a simple as little face wash, toner and moisturizer to a full on spa-like facial while sipping our favorite sparkling water. Every once in a while we include the little one but she’s just as content with a little mani-pedi from dad. And although we’d love this to be a consistent weekly occurrence, life does happen and cousins sometimes come over for playdates and dinner. We survive and the next week feels that much more special.
HOW TO ESTABLISH A SELF CARE RITUAL
- Find a regular day/time that you can block out for yourself (this is not a one time check off the to-do list)
- Let go of anything that takes out of this moment, trust me it can wait
- Actively listen to what it is that makes you feel indulgent, happy, tranquil
- Let life be slow, take notice, lose yourself- kind of like when you take in a new love
- Surround yourself with things you love: a candle, a favorite tea, book, dark chocolate, photos, comfy socks
- Take notice of how you feel during and after, give thanks
- Hold the intention to make this a regular habit
SOME OF OUR FAVORITE FACIALS
SIMPLE CLAY MASK
- 1tbs Benonite or White Clay
Mix with a few drops of water at a time to create a paste; dissolve any lumps. You can also add a bit of jojoba oil or your favorite essential oils. Apply; Leave on 15-20 or until dry.
KOMBUCHA SCOBY MASK
- 1 young scoby
- 1/2-1c plain kombucha; or more depending on its size
- 1-2tbs Clay Powder of Choice (I like this one)
Blend scoby and kombucha in a blender or processor until fairly smooth. In a small seperate container add 1-2tbs of your favorite clay and add some of the kombucha mixture until a paste is formed, similar to toothpaste. Store any unused kombucha scoby mix in a glass container for later use; store in a cool, dry place. In larger quantities, this also makes a wonderful body mud mask. Apply to face and décolletage 15-20 or until dry.
ASPIRIN YOGURT MASK (for adults)
This is one of my favorite masks of all times, I’ve been using it for years and it has always served me well. I use it when I want a bit more of a peel like affect because the aspirin contains salicylic acid which sloughs off dead skin. Honey contains both antiseptic and antibacterial properties which helps with inflammation and redness. It’s also a natural humectant so it locks in moisture to keep skin hydrated and glowing.
- 5-8 uncoated, plain aspirin
- 1tsp honey
- 1tbs organic plain yogurt
Add aspirin to a small glass container or mug; add enough water to dissolve the aspirin to make a paste (I crush them to quicken the process); once you have a paste like consistancy add honey + yogurt; mix till well incorporated. Apply on face, décolletage or any areas that may be prone to acne or redness. Leave on until dry; gently remove with a warm wash cloth.
OTHER PRODUCTS WE LOVE
- Organic Jojoba Oil – for cleaning and cleansing, I use this daily for washing my face
- Witch Hazel – used as a toner
- Rose Water – I use this as a hydration spray or as a finishing mist after I apply my make up
- Vitamin A+E Oil – a lovely emollient serum
- Egyptian Magic – this is a wonderful night cream! The perfect all purpose skin cream made with only 6 natural ingredients including Divine Love.